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Comment on Divorce by Lori

Lori — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 01:52:15 +0000

Thank you for your post. I am a Siesta and agreed with what you were saying and just clicked on your name then your post popped up and I started reading. Wow. I love the honesty and so needed to hear it today of all days!
God is so good!
My husband and I have been married going on 13 years and it has been tough to say the least. Right now I am really having a hard time with his drinking and by that I mean excessive, every day, no days without. It has increased so much to the point I know cannot even fathom how much he is wasting on it. I have been praying and seeking God about this and praying that God would help him and show him what he is doing. Nothing has changed. I am enduring this and feeling sooooooooo alone right now. I love my husband and want to be the wife I should be but it bothers me so much and when I confront him its like he freezes up and doesn’t want to talk at all. Nothing changes. When will it I pray?
I know that God has given us this marriage so what do I do now that it is so out of sorts and messed up.
I know that I am not leaving but how do you survive and thrive during such difficult times? I want my marriage back and more importantly I want my husband back. Please pray for us. Thank you
Lori

Comment on Divorce by bethsmiles

bethsmiles — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 16:07:39 +0000

This is a wonderful post. And one I agree with 100%. My husband and I have had major ups and major downs. We’ve come very close to divorce as well. Like many families out there, we are a blended family. My husband was divorced when I met him. Not only has that divorce nearly caused ours, but it’s been the single most cause of many of our “heated discussions”. You are right, divorce does not solve the problem. My husband should never have married his first wife. It was a rebellion against his parents during the un-Christian years of his life. A child was conceived during that brief marriage and it’s been hell ever since between him and her. Living under the blanket of that divorce has tightened our resolve to make our marriage work. We don’t want to go through divorce, nor put our 3 kids between us through what that child has gone through. I can only hope and pray that our children learn some huge lessons about marriage from what their Dad has gone through – and from the absolute love and devotion he and I have for each other through the hard and easy times!

Thanks!!

Comment on When It Rains by stacey

stacey — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 10:28:20 +0000

I think there’s wisdom in going to counseling at a time where you aren’t at the brink, but yet still know you need it. I hope this is a healthy one for ya.

Comment on Divorce by Julie Anne

Julie Anne — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:21:18 +0000

Yes, which is exactly what I said, if you read the entire thing.
There are definitely times when divorce is warranted – including abuse. But most times, people DON’T get divorced for those reasons.

Comment on Divorce by songstress7

songstress7 — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:00:45 +0000

Good points all, just remember that there is a large issue that you’ve not addressed – abuse.

My mother met my father when they were both students at a Bible college. He turned out to be not quite the man she thought he was – he cheated on her regularly, abused my brother for the first nine years of his life, got into trouble everywhere he went, and after she finally worked up the courage to leave him (she thought she was doing the right thing by staying) he was eventually arrested for armed robbery.

My brother suffers severe psychological and emotional problems to this day – at 44 years old – and my mother blames herself for staying in that marriage.

People divorce over things that can and should be worked out all the time. There are, however, a (very) few things that one should not stay and try to work through.

Comment on Divorce by stacey

stacey — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 10:52:06 +0000

I loved reading this blog. I love seeing where God has taken you!!!!

Comment on Divorce by John (AGUDWUN)

John (AGUDWUN) — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 00:32:25 +0000

Julie,

I just read your writing ‘on divorce’.

It is a beautiful article, brilliant and with
feeling. The thing I failed to notice was
what part you thought love played .

Perhaps the most miserable thing in life is
being unloved. So, what do people do when
they are unloved ? Get a divorce ?
Nope! Love is not about being loved. I think
love is about loving the other person.
If it is reciprocated, you are a winner.

I could go on, but I will spare you .

Regards,

John (Eagle Cruagh )

Comment on Divorce by Cindy Swanson

Cindy Swanson — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 00:26:44 +0000

Wow, Julie…there’s some gutsy, unvarnished truth here…but very balanced. Gotta say I’m in agreement with you.

Comment on Divorce by rjperalta

rjperalta — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 22:02:12 +0000

Thanks, good insight.
Richard

Comment on The Key To ADHD: Focus by Sarah P.

Sarah P. — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:27:41 +0000

Fascinating. I know I read once that we are so limited as humans that our personal greatest strength and greatest weakness are often flip sides of the same coin. I know that I can struggle with fear. Well, the emptiness of fear gives space for God to fill with faith.

I also read that moderately depressed people often have a much truer view of reality than do people without that struggle. I thought that was interesting.